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Stress Resiliency

Building your resiliency to stress is a way of dealing with stressful situations. Resiliency is the ability to rebound after a stressful event. Not how fast they recover, but the ability to recover.

Many people find that small hassles that occur on a daily basis no longer cause them a great deal of stress, but if they think about the first time that something in particular happened, then they will probably remember the stress response that occurred.

Resilient individuals find that they quickly become unaffected by new experiences and that when they are put in a stressful situation they are able to bounce back and relax.

Everybody has their own level of resilience. It has been reported that people with large families and a close network of friends are more resilient than people who prefer to spend time by themselves and are socially withdrawn.

Highly resilient people are said to have a set of attributes that are not shown by less resilient individuals. Some of these attributes are listed below:

  • Self-Aware - They are able to identify issues that they have and how they feel about the said issues. In addition they find it easy to talk about any issues that are bothering them with people close to them.
  • Realistic - They are able to look at themselves and their life from a realistic rather than from an idealistic point of view. They can identify with how they think and feel so that they become emotionally detached from things that cause them concern.
  • Positive - Rather than giving good advice to others they give good advice to themselves and live by it so that others can learn from them in a positive way. They also don’t feel the need to defend their actions when questioned by someone else because they live their life the way that they feel is right.
  • Optimistic - They have a natural optimistic outlook about life and participate in it as much as they can because they know that their resilience will enable them to get straight back up if knocked down. They look for the positive aspects of life and enjoy them to the full but they also understand that life has negative aspects that will work to bring you down. Even so, optimism allows these people to continuously look for the best possible outcome in every situation and this helps to pull resilient individuals through even the toughest of times. This positive attitude reduces stress and so increases resilience even further.
  • Courageous - A stressful situation makes a lot of people want to run for cover. For example if you were being bullied at school or even at work you might decide that it would be better if you don’t put yourself in the stressful position anymore. However highly resilient people think that it is a necessary part of life and that in order to learn from the experience they must face it head on whether they want to or not.
  • Accepting - They understand that grief is to be recognized and accepted as an inevitable part of life. Many resilient people find that religion or faith in something else helps them to stand up to the trials of life.

Perhaps the most important attribute that resilient individuals possess is their ability to cope with and manage their stress levels.

They learn quickly how to set limits in their life so that the amount of pressure they are under never reaches an excessive level. In addition they practice relaxation techniques and know how to unwind and slow things down.

Resilience comes from experiencing adversity and learning how to cope with it. You cannot therefore teach somebody to be resilient; they have to learn through their own experiences and because of this it develops throughout life.

To build resilience you need to be able to cope well with whatever life throws at you and recover from your stress. Thus if you find yourself in a stressful situation make sure that you take care of your health; get more sleep, eat well and exercise your mind and body.

You should also stay in close contact with close friends and family so that there is always someone near that you ca talk to about the issue and how you are feeling. Keep active by taking up a hobby.

This will mean that you don’t have large amounts of spare time to dwell on your problems and worry unnecessarily.

Professional councilors can help you to build resilience by making you talk about the things that affect you most. This helps to show your worries and stresses from a different point of view so that you can see that they aren’t as serious as you may think they are.

Many older individuals are much more resilient than younger people because they have lived through a whole range of life experiences. This teaches them over the years to become more resilient to the stresses and strains of everyday life.



Performance coaching for busy executives is a great way to improve your productivity and performance while reducing and managing stress.

If you want to address general stress, personal coaching or life coaching may also be a great option for you.

If you want to learn how to become a life coach, just follow the link to a great resource website.

Warning: Stress symptoms can be associated with serious medical conditions. The stress management information and techniques in this section are provided as general guidelines for informational purposes only. You should seek the help of qualified medical professionals if you have health or mental concerns over stress. You should also consult with your health care provider before making major changes in your diet or exercise levels.

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